Nachdem ich es nun ja einige Male sehr unschön mit verdrucksten Lügnern und Heuchlern zu tun hatte fand ich diesen Text "Credo for my relationships" vor kurzem im Xing-Postfach besonders schön. Natürlich klappt das dann nicht mehr, wenn der Andere gar nicht erst vor hat, sich daran zu halten. Aber immerhin einmal geschrieben von einem Menschen, der Lügen, verdrucktes gehässiges Schweigen und Manipulationen offenbar auch nicht für lässliche und zielführende Methoden sich durchzusetzen hält. Weder privat noch beruflich, aus falsch verstandener "Professionalität". Schön, dass es das noch gibt:

"You and I are in a relationship, which I value and want to keep. Yet each of us is a separate person with unique needs and the right to meet those needs. ... However, when your behavior interferes with what I must do to get my own needs met, I will tell you openly and honestly how your behavior affects me, trusting that you respect my needs and feelings enough to try to change the behavior that is unacceptable to me. Also, whenever some behavior of mine is unacceptable to you, I hope you will tell me openly and honestly so I can change my behavior.

At those times when one of us cannot change to meet the other's needs, let us acknowledge that we have a conflict and commit ourselves to resolve each such conflict without either of us resorting to the use of power to win at the expense of the other's losing. I respect your needs, but I also must respect my own. So let us always strive to search for a solution that will be acceptable to both of us. Your needs will be met, and so will mine - neither will lose, both will win. ..."